relationship

cn 2 persons, 2 individuals,
be so in sync tht u cn agree on everythg in life?
is it possible tht nothg ur partner does,
or says wil ever rubs u e wrong way or pisses you off?

there r couples who wil say or think,
'if we are like this, hw r we gona live wth each other
for e rest of our lives...?'

relationships r hard,
anyone in a relationship/marriage longer thn 2yrs would agree to tht.
once e reality tht relationship/marriage is hard work kicks in,
as in no more honey moon period, no longer fun and lovey-dovey..
whn it bcom alot of responsibility, obligations and compromise..
sm couples make it and some break..
thn.. we start to understand y they call relationship a commitment.

i feel tht,

1) if bad feelings start creeping in, take time out. Talk. And be nice.

2) let him/her win once in while. It’s alright. REALLY.

3) nvr walk out.. make sure he/she knw u nvr walk out.
it’s easier to wk at a relationship,
if u knw both of u r committed in it.
Wk thgs ot hand in hand

4) knw tht u’ll nvr hv e perfect spouse..
nobody is perfect, u r nt perfect either..

5) dun compare.. we r all individuals..

6) b contented, do nt measure ur relaionship wth $

7) do nt expect ur spouse to think, feel or react e way u do..
cos u cun either

8) communicate communicate communicate. Say thank Q whn he/she did smthg. Compromise whn thr r differences. Talk, nt quarrel

e key word is “willing”..

i feel a relationship CAN get better just by simply being WILLING..
willing to try.. willing to learn.. willing to give.. willing to forgive and accept.. willing to do.. willing to love.. willing to listen.. willing to read a self-help book to improve! lol..

forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a permanent attitude.
- Martin Luther King, Jr.

every couple 'fight'..
if u wan tis relationship,
u wil hv to wk on it,
no matter hw impossible or tough is it..

sm problem-solving strategies:

Conflict resolution skills can help you and your partner learn to argue in a more constructive manner, says Silverman, who offers this advice:

You are not a victim.
It is your choice whether to react and how to react.
Be honest with yourself.
When you're in the midst of an argument,
are your comments directed toward resolution,
or are you looking for payback?

If your comments are blaming and hurtful,
it's best to take a deep breath and change your strategy.

Change it up.
If you continue to respond in the same way that has
brought you pain and unhappiness in the past,
you can't expect a different result this time.

Just one little shift can make a big difference.
If you usually jump right in to defend yourself before
your partner is finished speaking,
hold off for a few moments.
You'll be surprised at how such a small shift in tempo
can change the whole tone of an argument.

Give a little; get a lot.
Apologize when you're wrong.
Sure it's tough,
but just try it and watch something wonderful happen.

"You can't control anyone else's behavior," Silverman says.
"The only one in your charge is you."

Problem-solving strategies: You and your partner can develop trust in each other by following these tips, suggested by Fay.

Be consistent.
Do what you say you will do.
Don't lie -- not even little white lies, to your partner or to others.
Be fair, even in an argument.
Be sensitive to the other's feelings.
You can still disagree but DON'T discount how your partner is feeling.
Call when you say you will.
Call to say you'll be home late.
Carry your fair share of the workload.
Don't overreact when things go wrong.
Never say things or words you can't take back.
Don't dig up old wounds.
Respect your partner's boundaries.
Be a good listener.

y is all tis on my blog...?
a reminder for all who read my blog..
pls, do nt take thgs for granted..
if u love tht person, pls wk on it,
dun say he/she also like tht wht..
lets begin wth u..

remembr,

"You can't control anyone else's behavior," Silverman says.
"The only one in your charge is you."

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